Learning to Love the Real Me
- Kathleen Naomi
- Apr 19, 2022
- 2 min read
Updated: Nov 12
Ever wished you could look like someone else? I did… and it took me years to realize that the magic is in loving the you that’s already here.
Have You Ever Wanted to Look Like Someone Else?
I did.
In high school.
And for some years after.
I was probably anorexic in high school.
Probably before it even had a name.
I was 5’6” and weighed 108 pounds.
Obsessed with being thin.
Why did I think I had to be super skinny?
Because of the outer world.
Friends, commercials, magazines, TV.
I didn’t have confidence in myself,
so I looked outward for guidance and approval.
In the late ’70s, early ’80s — thinner was better.
I thought if I looked good,
people would like me.
Specifically, boys.
I'd spend hours getting ready to go out.
Perfectly curled hair.
Perfect makeup.
Perfect outfit (even though I didn’t have many — it had to look just right).
Yet I never really thought I looked beautiful.
Acceptable — maybe.
But not really beautiful.
Have you ever had thoughts like this?
Brooke Shields.
That was my girl.
That’s who I wanted to look like in high school.
The perfect All-American girl:
Long brown hair
Blue eyes
Full lips
Thick eyebrows
Instead of… me.
Half Asian.
Half hillbilly.
I would bite my upper lip,
hoping it would puff up like Brooke’s.
Today…
I can admire or appreciate a pretty girl —
or a handsome man —
and not wish I looked like them.
I love the freckles on my face that come out in the sun.
My dark hair.
Somewhat exotic, half-Asian eyes.
Olive skin.
I even accept the wrinkles that come with time.
Sometimes I think I look pretty.
Other times… just okay.
Mostly, I love that we’re all unique.
All beautiful in our own special way.
And that intensity of beauty
only shines from within.
Kim.
One of today’s biggest influencers is Kim Kardashian.
I see many Kims walking around, on social media:
Same thick black eyebrows
Same long eyelashes
Same big boobs and butt
I get it.
Now, as an older, wiser woman, my eyes are wide open to what’s important.
What’s beautiful in the world.
Each of us in our own unique way.
My character Larleen knows exactly how to look like a Kim...
Embrace our UNIQUE, BEAUTIFUL SELVES.
It’s all about love, and that love begins with you.
Once you love yourself… all of you… nothing can stop you.
That’s where the magic happens. ✨
Imagine a world where we all accept, embrace, and love our inner and outer beauty.
Find your Inner Movie Star.
xo Kathleen Naomi
